Another day, another fundraiser!

So in conjunction with our Team Fisher House fundraising campaign, a good friend (and quad mom!) offered to host a fundraiser for me!

Have you ever heard of Scentsy?

It’s absolutely amazing, especially for those of us with kids. No, I’m not getting paid personally to say this (though it will benefit Fisher House!!)

It’s home fragrance WITHOUT a flame! How cool? The wax that melts, while hot, won’t burn you or your kids, and it’s powered by plugging it in and using a lightbulb.

For anyone who uses/likes Scentsy products, or who is interested in trying it, I have a fundraiser open this week through Friday the 31st! You can order right online, the products are shipped to you, and 20% comes back to Fisher House! Fisher House provides a “home away from home” for military families to be close to a loved one during hospitalization for an illness, disease or injury. Great way to restock and help out all at the same time. My personal suggestions? Beach Scentsy Bar (smells like pina colada and helps me pretend it’s summer even when it’s 50 and raining outside), and the buddies with french lavendar scent packs!

You can view the party here:
Team Fisher House Scentsy Fundraiser

And if you have any questions, please contact me!

And you know what is even better than candles/fragrance?

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Chocolate and Cheese Fondue. The makers of Scentsy now have a new line out called Velata. It is a fondue warmer which the dish is microwave and dishwasher safe, and the chocolates and cheeses are AMAZING. Personally, I love the Caramel Milk Chocolate 😉

She also has a Velata party open if that’s more your speed!
https://karihickey.velata.us/Velata/Buy

Just choose the Team Fisher House party from the Buy page!

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2 years

Two years ago this morning, I walked into Madigan Army Medical Center after having a contraction in the middle of the night. After driving down the highway thinking, “Hmm, they stopped, maybe we could just go home.”

Nope, instead it began our journey with these three little crazy munchkins.

It began with this view. Every time they came to visit me, they got to see this desk and the smiling guards behind it.

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And then I got my room. After a couple days, I even got moved to a new room with a window bed. Roommates came and went (some I’ll never forget, others I’ll wish I could!). But I got to look at this every day.

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And then I got hospital priviledges. Sure, it was in a wheel chair. But goodness, the relief of eating cafeteria food from the cafeteria rather than from a tray in my room was exciting. And fresh air!

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The two amazing men in my life visited every.single.day. (Well, okay, except one, but that was preschool graduation night and there was a big party, and I’ll forgive that!)

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It’s hard to believe it was 2 years ago already. I’m pretty sure the next 28 days will go by a lot faster this time around than they did the last!

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Quick photo update

 

I got the saddest email the other day. It was titled:

“Your 23-month old toddler”

Um, didn’t they get the memo? I won’t let them turn two. Not happening.

So in honor of them staying 23 months forever (it’s kinda like turning 29 for an indefinite amount of time), I figured I should update you with some of the latest pictures:

First, the benefit to having three littles who don’t know that chores aren’t that much fun yet? They scrub your walls for you.

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The next ones are from a kid zone at a race that we went to. They had a blast! Aiden played too, but wasn’t as photo-cooperative.

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And that’s all for now. Coming up? 2 years since I stepped foot in Madigan Army Medical Center, a soon-to-be-two update, fundraising updates for Team Fisher house, and end of the year pics for Aiden!

 

Are you kidding me???

So, I’m sure you’ve all heard of or seen it by now, but last year a movie came out that was pure genius on many levels.

First, it had triplets.

Second, they were mischievous. AND they turned into bears. (That should actually be a point in and of itself)

Third, it had a female heroine. I’m all for princesses and white knights on horses coming to their aid, sometimes. But a good story with a female saving the day and rectifying mistakes? Awesome.

If you haven’t figured out what I’m talking about yet, it’s

And I loved it. My kids loved it. Most adults and children alike that I know? Loved it.

She was strong. Courageous. A wicked shot with a bow and arrow. She had attitude, perseverance, and best of all? She looked normal. Children could relate to her. Her hair was frizzy at times. She didn’t wear much makeup (if any). She wore a dress size that is actually made and not a size 0 taken in three inches to suit a 12″ waist.

And guess what? She was recently chosen to be Disney’s 11th Princess. How cool is that??

And then I saw her “make-over.”

Because she wasn’t beautiful enough already, they chose to do this:

Why?? Why, in the world, is that necessary at all?? Firstly, she hated the fancy dress in the movie, so it doesn’t even suit her personality. But secondly, which one would you prefer your young, impressionable daughter to want to imitate? A princess who has a modest dress, bow and arrows at the ready? Or one whose dress is about to fall off a shoulder and is too concerned about her lipgloss to remember to bring her bow with her hunting?

Another site, A Mighty Girl, has launched a petition here.

Sign it. For your daughters. And theirs. And to let Disney know what is really beautiful in the world is a strong, self-sufficient, girl, who might also be a beautiful princess, but is also brave, courageous, and (while strong-willed) is strong in conviction.

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Sneaky little children

When you first get pregnant, every one tells you about what to expect. From night feedings, to first milestones, someone somewhere has advice. Often conflicting advice, but advice none-the-less.

Then as your baby starts to crawl, you are educated on the dangers of baby-proofing the house. They warn you about marbles, small legos, delicate objects placed precariously on a counter just in arms reach… They warn you about doors and stairs and wobbly old chairs.

And then your child gets older. They warn you about the “terrible twos” and the “trying threes” and tantrums, time out, 1-2-3 magic, Love and Logic, and a hundred other parenting styles.

What no one EVER tells you about is how sneaky they can be.

So here are some lessons for you:

1) They can climb. And if a window is open, they will start to play with the screen as if plotting an escape.

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2) They like to copy each other. If you have more than one? Good luck.

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3) They look cute an innocent. But really they’re plotting against you. Don’t let the sweet faces (and dresses courtesy of an amazing neighbor) fool you.

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4) If there is an object to help them gain a height advantage, they will use it. Not only that, but they will pick it up, carry it halfway across the room, place it in the perfect location, and then retrieve the Wii remote that they’ve wanted all day.

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5) If you pin daddy down and get him to hold one child, the other two can then jump in and try to steal the items they wanted. All objects are fair game. A chair leg. A daddy leg. A box on the floor. Doesn’t matter. If it adds height, it’s worth the risk.

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I’m sure I’ll have an addendum as they learn to coordinate more effectively and become a force to be reckoned with.

Signing off while I’m still in charge and haven’t been overthrown by the horde.

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You have to start somewhere

My husband and I talk about this all the time, but this site reminded me about it today. If you haven’t checked out Tales of an Unlikely Mother, you should.

Imagine this. You’re hungry. And really really really don’t feel like cooking. But you’ve got young children (number here doesn’t matter, just that they’re younger than considered old enough to behave appropriately in public on their own accord). You could (not that I’ve ever ever ever done this) have cereal for dinner. You could order pizza/takeout/delivery. Or you could go to a restaurant.

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Sure, it won’t always be perfect. Sometimes you might show up and they only have one or two high chairs. It’s possible to improvise, or be patient, or, yes, you could go somewhere else. But it’s manageable.

Sometimes? You might have to consider asking them to just box the food and take it to-go, because the waiter didn’t realize that when you asked for the kids’ drinks and food ASAP, you didn’t mean 20 minutes later, scalding hot, with no cold plates in sight. Upside? Chugging beer for the first time since college.

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Sometimes? You might get through the meal, the waiter is taking too long to bring the check, and one parent takes the kids out to the car and gets them buckled while the other patiently waits.

Sure, you might have to put a little more than your usual 20% tip for good service because while the service wasn’t the best you’ve ever had, your children’s food all over the floor and mashed in between seats calls for a little extra.

Note: I am not saying you have to, but I always try to pick up at least a little bit (or until someone sees me and tells me to stop). It’s just the nice thing to do especially on the messiest of days.

And sometimes? They will astound you. Dinner the other night, we sat down at a nice table. They played quietly with their forks. Drank their water without spilling too much. Ate their food. We had polite conversation (albeit a little loud once in a while). And then we walked out of there with brother and sister holding hands like civilized people.

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And you might have to bribe coerce guide them with sweedish fish to get them to follow you back to the car rather than diving off the wharf to swim with the sea lions.

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Some times will be epic failures, but you’ll get better at it. And they will. And it’ll be great! Start early. Start often. They’ll learn quickly (probably quicker than you will) and some day when you’re just not up for cooking the thought of braving public for dinner won’t seem worse than cooking does.

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What not to post

Okay, so Facebook has me thinking lately. We all use it. We all spend way too much time on it, when we could be, I don’t know, cleaning/playing/cooking/sleeping/reading/sunning/______(insert anything else remotely more productive than snooping on your friends’ and acquaintances’ and not-so-friends’ lives).

But there are some things that just shouldn’t be done. We all know that you can block people. And defriend them. And if it goes over a line, you can report them. But in the grand scheme of things, why in the world would you….

* Post a minutely update on your life. I’m glad you just showered. I’m glad you’re now out of the shower. I’m even more glad that you put clothes on after getting out of the shower before answering the door. That’s wonderful. But it’s not necessary to post minute by minute updates of your daily activities.

* Posting lovingly about your spouse and how they went above and beyond doing the dishes, helping with the laundry, and cooking dinner. Daily. I’m sorry, but if they do something extraordinary, that’s cool. But posting daily/weekly about how many wonderful excellent things that your spouse or significant other has done gets tiring. And it gets AWish. I get it. They’re amazing. Humble bragging about doing your job as a parent/spouse is just annoying.

Oh em gee, my hubby is the sweetest. He sat there and changed a baby’s diaper, put his clothes in the laundry so I could wash them later, and while I was miserable with the flu set the table so I could finish hand prepping a three course meal. And let’s not forget he took child #3 to baseball so I didn’t have to take the other 10. What a guy!!!

* Pinterest-worthy creations every 10 minutes of the day. I’ll be the first to brag if I actually manage to accomplish a sweetheart covered door wreath for Valentines, or when I finally complete my faux-chenille baby blanket that I’ve been wanting to make. But all day every day posting creations you’ve made and copied that make you look like such a better mother/wife/friend? Overboard. The person who you made it for will probably enjoy it more if it’s a simple gift with no praise required, than if you post it all over the internet about how amazing you were.

* Duck Lips. One is funny. Two, eh. Multiple duck lips profile pictures changing daily? Too much.

* Hash tags. I’m sorry. I don’t get it. I understand it’s an instagram thing. Maybe a #atthebeach and maybe a #sweetkids but not

#suchsweetchildren #atthebeach #inthesand #bikinisforlyfe #sunandsand #toomanywordsinthisoneicantfigureitout #whydoesntthisletmeusepunctuation

In the brilliant words of an online meme:

And on that note? Not every meme created needs to be shared. And they definitely don’t need to be shared multiple times plus sent to individuals’ walls. I’ll be the first to admit I’m guilty of reposting more than my fair share, but I promise I’m working on it.

What bugs you???

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Video games

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It’s funny the things that we are accustomed to doing, and what we swear we’d never let our kids do, and then we realize, you know what? It’s OK.

We play video games. We use electronics. Honestly, we have way too many in the house. Two computers, two tablets, a laptop (that is rarely used, but might be dragged out more that the kids get older), an iPhone, a Wii, Xbox 360, and various vintage video game consoles that we even have an old analog TV to play them on. This includes an Atari. Seriously. Like I said – TOO MANY.

But that’s getting sidetracked. I always swore that I wouldn’t let my kids be addicted to electronics. How I planned on accomplishing that, in this day and age, I have no idea. I mean, I’m not sure the last time I used a paper address book, touched a phone book, or used a real life map. Actually, I did use a phone book last week. I was on the cell phone talking to someone getting a phone number for a whale watching place online and the power went out. My first thought was, “Yikes! What do I do?!” And then I realized that there was a phone book still sitting on my front porch. I think it was delivered a few weeks ago maybe? Sure enough, you can still find a phone number in that archaic item. Can you believe it?

And I’m not sure that my oldest believes that you can find your way from one place to another using a highlighter, map, a few quick calculations of distances, and maybe a ruler should you want to be more precise than using the guestimate tactic.

But when it comes to video games, they see us play them. Sure, we limit the violent ones to after bedtime (first person shooter games, etc). And we try to limit how much they actually see us on the computer or phone. But it happens. They know it’s there. So we bought Aiden his very first video game.

And it is a MAJOR hit.

At first I was a bit worried about what he would be learning/doing/experiencing. I mean, how could an electronic game that is not designed to be educational really teach him anything?

Boy was I wrong.

So far we’ve learned: How to read a map, how to follow directions, how to problem solve, dexterity, how to listen to instructions, how different characters have different abilities, what the international sign for a hospital is, and that sharks live in the ocean. We’ve also learned how to use a ray gun, change the color of a sign, blow up buildings with dynamite, and all the other good things that a Lego game can teach us. We pretty much refer to it as grand theft auto for kids, as you can drive a car around and run over pretty much anyone and anything.

But in the end? He does twice as many chores in the house to earn time playing. We have imaginary play pretending to be superheroes and cops and space men. I can get laundry done without him getting excessively bored. We can read long books to him without him getting fidgety, and he actually pays attention.

So yeah. I take back any snide comments I ever made pre-kids about “those” parents that let their kids play video games. Now, a game boy at the restaurant table is pushing it over the line. And letting your kid play 10 hours a day where they get obese because they don’t play outside is too much. But a little bit every day? Where I can drink my coffee in peace? And maybe even have a good excuse to play the Wii while he’s awake without him getting upset he doesn’t know how? Totally worth it.

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Is it… summer?

Last year, while the kids sure enjoyed the outdoors, I couldn’t really just let them play out there unsupervised. It was a long summer where mommy either couldn’t get anything done, or they were cooped up inside. They hadn’t quite mastered steps yet, so I couldn’t leave the door open for them to come in and out at their leisure, and so we didn’t play out much at all.

Today? It’s 73. And sunny. And, honestly, hot. Our house is already at 80 and it’ll get worse before the night is over (yay no A/C and west facing windows!)

And I’m sitting here on the computer, drinking some iced coffee, while they giggle and laugh with glee. Outside. By themselves.

Sure it’s not perfect. There are fights for toys every now and then. And a few pinched fingers in doors, or bumps from falling. But overall? It’s heaven. I could get used to this.

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No words to describe

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Can you even imagine? Training for months. Working harder and committing deeper to this than you have to anything before in your life. You make it 26 miles. You smile at the crowd around you. The crowd that is cheering for YOU. It is a holiday in the city. Workers have the day off, schools are closed, everyone who knows anything about running is at that finish line. To support YOU. Boston is said to be one of the friendliest marathons – best cheering crowd, best memories made, best scenery. People work their whole lives to run 26.2 miles faster than they ever have before, just in order to qualify to do it all over again.

And you get to 26.1 miles. You can see the finish line ahead. And then the world collapses into chaos.

Those families. Those runners. Newtown, CT, victims’ families are there.

There is nothing to say. There are no words for this tragedy.

I know that when I run 26.2 miles in October, it will be every single step in memory of those who lost their lives or limbs or selves today and will never run again. It will be for those military who go through the fear of that every day of their tours overseas. It will be for those who will not recover from this event and will be forever scarred.

Pray. Pray harder than you ever have before. Our country needs it.